Imagine this: You are in a social setting with a group of people you have just met, or recently met, and someone you barely know takes you aside and says something like this: “Psst . . . see that woman over there? She doesn’t have a uterus! ” Followed by a derogatory comment with an inappropriate label and a snicker . . .
You’d think the person who told you this was crazy, right? You’d probably be offended. You might ask the person why the fact the woman had a hysterectomy is worthy of gossip and derision. You might even make a complaint about the gossip to the host of the event.
Obviously, that type of gossip is just not acceptable in social settings. So, why is it so acceptable to many people in similar social settings to point out that so-and-so is “gay” or “a transgender person,” perhaps using derogatory terms like “faggot” or “tranny” or mislabelling them altogether — such as calling a fully transitioned woman “a transsexual” (see preceding post)?
Food for thought . . .
Such behavior is only acceptable in some circles, not all! The hope is that through education by people such as yourself, the number of places in which it is acceptable will dwindle to zero. A daunting task, no doubt, but given enough time and dedication, anything can be accomplished.
These types of comment are not acceptable anywhere under any circumstances.
Jillian, there’s always going to be stupid people, and there’s a lot more of them than the smart ones. I can’t imagine what the derogatory comment was, or what the label could have been. Was this a man or a woman? I mean what could you possibly say? Why can’t we accept people for what they are? My son (when he was is grade 5) spoke out in class on the topic on the topic of gays, he said, ‘that it was just another kind of love’. In his eyes he did not see a difference or distinction. His school was and is for the most part run by intelligent and aware people and teachers. Homophobia and bullying is unwelcome, and they do try to teach about an openness to all kind of people. Inclusiveness for everyone is the keystone of the school’s (and the board’s) policy, and that goes for gender, colour, race, disability of any kind etc. Let’s have faith in our young people, let’s show them the openness and inclusiveness that we all need to live in a rapidly shrinking world. Anyway, about the person that made the comment, being as enlightened as they are, just imagine what they think of themselves when they are alone. It’s got to be a scary place to be.