Have you ever given any thought to handshakes?
Probably not, right? It’s a ritual we learn when we are kids, and we probably shake hands with hundreds, if not thousands, of people over the course of a lifetime without giving the process much thought.
But I got to wondering this morning, after writing the preceding post yesterday about “killers in our midst everywhere,” how many people would extend a hand to a known convicted murderer or rapist once they had served their time and were released from prison.
What if you were introduced to, say, Karla Homolka (mentioned in preceding post) and she extended her hand to you? Would you shake it?
I think most people would refuse to shake the hand of someone they knew — or strongly suspected, i.e. O.J. Simpson — had committed a horrible crime, because they would feel soiled afterward. Ditto for shaking the hand of someone like Donald Trump and other politicians of his ilk, right-wingers etc. If protocol or etiquette forced you to shake hands with some thoroughly unlikable politician, you’d probably be using hand sanitizer or a bar of soap soon afterward.
Which got me to thinking further: when we do shake hands with someone, we seldom, if ever, wonder what that person was doing with their hand before the shake, and if that hand extended to us is clean and germ-free.
Scenario: man takes a pee at the urinal, doesn’t wash his hands, and is introduced to you immediately afterward in some social setting (i.e. convention, restaurant). You’re shaking a hand that just held a penis — and you might even realize that, if you give it a second or two of thought. But you don’t know that the hand wasn’t washed afterward.
And so it goes. We shake a lot of hands that have been doing god knows what. Well, we do know what to some extent because everyone does intimate and personal things everyday with the hand they extend for the handshake ritual. Think about it . . . and OMG, why can’t we just touch foreheads instead or something!?
I decided to consult Wikipedia on the history of the handshake and didn’t come away feeling reassured. In fact, my fears were confirmed: The handshake ritual can spread germs. “Handshakes are known to spread a number of microbial pathogens. Certain diseases such as scabies spread the most through direct skin-to-skin contact.”
In Russia, apparently, it is more appropriate for men to kiss a woman’s hand instead of a handshake, but I’m not sure I want some guy’s lips touching my hand because god knows what he has been doing with those lips . . .
I think I will opt for fist bumps in the future, though I don’t mind the kiss-kiss routine on the cheeks, either — but that’s usually a parting ritual as opposed to a greeting ritual.
Sigh . . . This whole line of thought and that in the preceding post developed for me after the latest Karla Homolka affair hit the news this week. Her crimes and her presence and visibility in Montreal society now has disturbed many, many people and got them talking about various related issues.
I have one other I am going to write about in a future post, if not the next.
Photo credit: Rufino/Wikipedia